I had been a hairstylist right out of high school. In 2008 I went back to school to become a surgical technician, scrub, scrub nurse, OR tech or whatever you want to call us! It was like my second calling. I always thought I’d die doing hair, but now I was blessed with a second career and I was so happy! In fact, the happier I got and more comfortable I got in my new role, the older I got, and the idea of having a family seemed like it just wasn’t gonna happen. Having kids was pretty low on our priority list. We didn’t have time! I worked crazy hours, as did my husband, Chris. We both took call at our jobs. My job was who I was. It defined me. Chris and I both had become very “career oriented”. The way I see it, we had 14 years to focus on ourselves, which, I believe, made a huge difference in how we relate to each other and how close we are.
I guess it was toward the end of 2011 when I kinda started getting the mommy itch. The “having kids” convo started feeling like an elephant in the room. For some crazy reason I was embarrassed to talk to Chris about it. There was no reason for me to be embarrassed, but I still was. It’s a big deal! Having a baby would change everything! Our routine would totally be different. I even thought that it may just be too late for us to have kids. Like, there was a statute of limitations. If you were married past X amount of years, it was just too late to start having a family. I know, it’s crazy thinking!
I finally got the guts to have the kid talk with Chris around January 2011. We were at a Buffalo Wild Wings having some wings ‘n beer. I supposed it took the beer for me to bring it up. We talked for a long time. We decided to take the rest of the year to pay down our debt and we’d start trying in January of 2012. Cool! Now there was a plan! We had a goal to work toward. Having a family wasn’t a “maybe someday” thing anymore! I really got excited!
In November of 2011 I went to see my OB GYN. She suggested that I take a folic acid supplement and a multivitamin for a few months before I get pregnant. Chris was born with spina bifida. It’s a congenital defect where the spine (vertebrae) don’t form around the spinal cord properly and there may be a sac that forms outside the body that contains nerves. It happens in about 1 in 1000 births. No one else in Chris’s family had it. But since he was born with it, our baby could be more susceptible. No problem! We would do whatever we had to do to have a healthy baby! So, I started taking the supplements and we were on our way to having a family!